The Legacy
When my husband, Bob, died very
suddenly in January 1994, I received condolences from people
I hadn't heard from in years: letters, cards, flowers, calls,
visits. I was overwhelmed with grief, yet uplifted by this
outpouring of love from family,
friends and even mere acquaintances.
One message touched me profoundly.
I received a letter from my best friend from sixth grade through
high school. We had drifted somewhat since graduation in 1949,
as she stayed in our home town and I had not. But it was the
kind of friendship that
could quickly resume even if we lost touch for five or ten years.
Her husband, Pete, had died perhaps
20 years ago at a young age, leaving her with deep sorrow and
heavy responsibilities: finding a job and raising three young
children. She and Pete, like Bob and I, had shared one of those rare,
close, "love-of- your-life-you-can-never-forget" relationships.
In her letter she shared an anecdote
about my mother (now long deceased). She wrote, "When Pete died,
your dear mother hugged me and said, 'Trudy, I don't know what to
say . . so I'll just say I love you.'"
She closed her letter to me repeating
my mother's words of so long ago, "Bonnie, I don't know what to say
. . . so I'll just say I love you."
I felt I could almost hear my
mother speaking to me now. What a powerful message of sympathy! How dear
of my friend to cherish it all those years and then pass it on to me. I
love you. Perfect words. A gift. A legacy.
By Bonnie J. Thomas
from A Cup of Chicken Soup for
the Soul
Copyright 1996 by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen & Barry
Spilchuk