Generally most people if asked would consider themselves to be a "nice" person. Sometimes however, especially when conflicts arise between ourselves and other people, we might have a tendency to put the blame on them or some other circumstance. The following traits and behaviours can help us to take responsibility and to have less chance of conflict in our life by demonstrating and living "nice person" attitudes, traits, and
behaviours.

1.  Like other people for their individual and unique qualities, not for what they can do or give you, or for their "status."

2.  *Always* keep confidences, and display the qualities of loyalty and honesty to your friends and associates.

3.  If you have a problem keeping your temper when other people disagree with you, learn to change that. There are ways of showing your disappointment, pain, or disagreement besides anger.

4.  If you are a person prone to jealousy or envy, get help so you do not have those feelings anymore. They show your insecurity.

5.  Allow yourself to be happy for your friends and associates when they get promoted, become more prosperous, or fall into a situation of good fortune or luck.

6.  If you are critical of other people, make sure that criticism is *only* of the most caring and *constructive* kind!

7.  Learn how to forgive and forget and "let go" of any event or pain where you feel you were harmed or otherwise hurt. Holding grudges eats away at  you and turns into bitterness, cynicism and a generally negative attitude which is unattractive and unhealthy.

8.  Help out friends and even strangers if you see or hear they are ill, in trouble, or in need of some assistance or support.

9.  Don't gossip about others. Gossip is not fair to anyone concerned, since you usually do not know the real facts, and often it is none of your business anyhow.

10.  Be as good about complimenting others on their appearance, performance and talents as you would want them to be to you.

11.  Learn to be willing and able to apologize and say you are sorry when it is appropriate, even if you have to swallow your pride in doing so.
 

12.  Practice thinking before you say something that might hurt or offend someone else when talking to them or about them. Often, talking about someone when they are not there leads to gossip and negative comments, which is to be avoided.

13.  Do all you can to be very open and honest in your communications  with personal friends, family and business associates. Honesty is *always*  the best policy.

14.  Give more than you get. Don't keep score of what is given to you or what you have given. The more you give to others by way of time, money, help and love, the more will come back to you in time.

15.  Make yourself a positive and attractive person in how you look, speak and act. Present yourself the best you can using what you were born with and have learned in life. You will attract more positive and "attractive" people to you when you do this.