CARPE DIEM:
How to Squeeze the Life out of Life! (Part 1 of 5)
by Dr. Bill Nieporte
Several years ago the movie "Dead Poets Society" resurrected
an obscure Latin phrase that most of us had forgotten: Carpe Diem.
It means Seize the Day. It's an exhortation to
live life to the fullest, getting the most out of each
day.
Despite our desire for a full and meaningful life, however, most
of us find ourselves so caught up in what appear to be the
daily drudgeries of life that we simply don't have the
time to CARPE DIEM. We've got place to go, people to see, things
to do, and bills to pay. We all want more for our lives but it just doesn't
seem to be within our grasp.
Carpe Deim-a nice thought, eh? But how? How do we "Seize the Day?"
How do we "Go for the Gusto?" How do we squeeze every ounce of life's joy
out of each moment of
our lives? These are the questions I will be exploring over the next several
weeks in a serieof articles I am calling: "Carpe Diem: How
to Squeeze the Life out of Life!"
Discovering Your Purpose for Living! (Part 2 of 5) by Bill Nieporte
1) WHAT GIVE YOU PASSION?
Napoleon Hill has said: "Cherish your visions and your dreams
as they are the children of your soul; the blueprints of your ultimate
achievements."
Take some time to examine your hopes, dreams, and aspirations. What
are those things in life that when accomplished give you greater strength
instead of shear exhaustion? What things renew you rather than drain you?
What are you involved with that gives you the felling that you are contributing
something of value to the world? By exploring your PASSIONS you will
begin to uncover your PURPOSE.
Orison Swett Marden said "There's no grander sight in the world than that of a person fired with a great purpose, dominated by one unwavering aim." If this statement could describe any of us, then we would certainly be learning to "seize the day."
2) WHAT ARE MY RESOURCES-MY POTENTIAL?
Motivational experts are found of saying that our potential is unlimited.
I disagree! At this point in my life their are certain things that are
beyond my reach. For example, no matter how hard I work or how much I train,
I don't have the potential to play basketball in the NBA. It's simply beyond
my potential.
I do believe that I've got some potential to do some pretty amazing things. You've got similar potential. The trick is in it discovery. To discern our life's purpose we must uncover our potential. To begin identifying your potential start by asking yourselves these questions. Record your answers in writing. If you do it right you'll probably need several pages. I suggest that you list your responses in your journal. (You are keeping a journal, aren't you?)
What unique God-given abilities do you possession?
What experiences have provided you with wisdom?
What skills have you developed in you business or profession?
What knowledge have gained while earning your education?
What are your personal strengths of character?
3) WHAT ARE THE NEEDS AROUND ME?
The most successful person of recent decade has been a Catholic
Nun named Mother Theresa. That sounds strange when you consider her lifestyle.
She was a rather plain looking individual of small stature-not some leggy
super-model. She was a poor
in a world that values wealth-living in a one-room apartment with only
a few pieces of furniture. Though she didn't fit any of our "success" stereotypes,
I doubt that few would deny the achievements and value of her life. that
she was one of the most successful people to every live.
Leadership expert John Maxwell has written:
"God's gift to me is my potential. My gift to God is what I do with
that potential. I believe great leaders sense a "higher calling"-one that
lifts them above themselves. What a terrible waste of life to be climbing
the ladder of success only to find when you read the top that you were
leaning against the wrong building."
Mother Theresa's ladder was leaning against the right building,
wasn't it? That's what made her successful. She looked around. She saw
the tremendous need that existed in Calcutta. She knew that she had the
potential to make a difference-one life at a time. Her heart was
stirred. Her passions were energized. In response she devoted her life
to make a difference.
PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
What gives you passion? What are your resources-your potential? What
are the needs of
the people around you? Answer these questions.
Find out how each response intersect. When you do you will be on your
way to discovering a worthwhile purpose for your life.
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Developing an Exceptional Attitude! (Part 3 of 5)
by Bill Nieporte
WHAT DETERMINES OUR ATTITUDE
Numerous factors play a part in determining our attitude. In this article
I will deal with one:
how we think. William James said, "That which holds our attention determines
our action." My experience dealing with people indicates that he is correct.
The foundation for any attitude is the thought processes of the individual.
All other factors (feeling, behaviours, circumstances, environment) are
ultimately under the dominion of our thoughts.
This truth is illustrated a story told by Dr. Victor Frankel, one of
the few survivors of
Auschwitz. When asked how he survived in a place where tens of
thousands had died, he said, "I always knew that my attitude was my choice.
I could choose to despair or to be hopeful. But to be hopeful I needed
to focus on something I wanted.
"I focused on my wife’s hands. I wanted to hold them one more time. I wanted
to look into her eyes one more time. I wanted to think that we could embrace
again and be heart to heart one more time. That kept me alive second by
second by second."
Frankel did not have more resource then the prisoners around him, nor were his circumstances less severe than others. The difference was where he focused his thoughts. His entire mental processes were centered on one single goal. That goal gave his a reason to survive and helped him develop an exceptional attitude.
HOW TO CONTROL OUR THOUGHTS
One of the most important things we need to understand as we strive to develop an exceptional attitude is that we are engaging in a process. It doesn’t happen overnight. The unhealthy tattoos we attach to our mind are not easily removed. It take time and a healthy does of discipline. A fellow pastor and mentor suggested for me the following course of action.
EXPRESS FAITH
I was reminded of a powerful conviction I believe but, unfortunately,
had seldom focused much attention on. I was reminded that God loved me—no
strings attached. My mentor reminded me that I was created in God’s image
and redeemed from my faults by God’s loving grace. My intentional
and daily remembrances of this simple conviction have aided me tremendously
in developing a positive attitude.
IDENTIFY GOALS
The second bit of aadvice shared by my mentor that I begin
a daily discipline of keeping a
journal. It would be what Mark Victor Hansen has called a "Future
Diary." In this journal I was instructed to record what I wanted
out of live: desires, dreams, hopes, ambitions, and goals. By maintaining
this daily journal (a Future Diary) you can become more disciplined at
thinking more positive, life-enhancing thoughts.
ASSOCIATE WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
My mentor next shared one of his favourite quotations. "You can’t fly with the eagles if your too busy associating with the turkeys." In other words, I needed to surround myself daily with some positive thinking people. These people could come to me in the form of their books, personal development tapes, or by their actual presence. In any case, I needed to find and fly with the eagles--and spend less time with turkeys.
MAKE A PUBLIC DECLARATION
Finally I was challenges to make a commitment to certain trusted friends of my intention to develop an exceptional attitude. My mentor said that in so doing I would be requesting their support, submitting to their accountability, and encouraging them to join me on the journey. This has been the most rewarding aspect of this discipline.
CONCLUSION
The development of an exceptional attitude is an ongoing process in which I am still involved. I invite you to join me in this process so that together we can "Carpe Diem; Seize the Day."
In our first segment we explored what it meant to discern a PURPOSE
for our lives. The
next segment dealt with developing a positive ATTITUDE. In this article
we will move to
the next step--GOAL SETTING.
In some circles the concept of GOAL SETTING has received a bad rap.
This is
understandable--especially when you consider how so many have approached
this discipline.
When I began university studies nearly twenty years ago, I attended
a orientation class in
which a college administrator taught us about GOAL SETTING. When the
class was finished I knew all about what I wanted--but nothing about how
to get what I wanted. Isn't that the main objective of GOAL SETTING?
Isn't the purpose of having goals to motivate us to do something?
The objective of this article is simple. I want to describe the anatomy
of a GOAL in such
a way that your GOAL SETTING activities will actually motivate you
to do something.
DREAMS
The first step in developing workable GOALS is to take the time to
dream big dreams. This
is the time to explore what we WANT out of life. We do it all the time,
don't we? We dream about the new job, the new car, the new house, the happy
home, the healthy relationship with our spouse, etc.
The difference between these typical day-dreams and what I writing
about is simple. I am
suggesting that the dreams that matter are the dreams your record.
You will be engaging in
a process called Blue Sky Thinking. Get out your journal. Start
recording your dreams. The sky's the limit! Challenge yourselves
with the following statements/questions each day for the next several days.
Record your responses--it may take several sheet each day. Dream big dreams.
1) If you were given $1,000,000.00 dollars today, what would you do
with your life?
2) Write down everything you would like to do in your life.
3) Use your imagination to look down the road 5, 10, 15, and 20 years.
Imagine the best case scenario. What do you see? Where do you live? Where
do you work? How do you look?
Describe yourself in detail
This exercise in Blue Sky Thinking will
help you begin to bring clarity to your dreams. This exercise can help
you paint a powerful mental picture of what your life can look like.
But this is only step one in the GOAL SETTING process.
A VISION/MISSION
The next step requires a convergence between your life's purpose and
your dreams.
Your life's purpose should serve as master over your dreams. For example,
Mother Teresa may have dreamed to be a wealthy business executive--but
that would have been a denial of her life's purpose. Take the time to evaluate
your dream in light of your purpose. As you do you will begin to develop
a clear VISION or MISSION for your life. Record that MISSION!
The MISSION of my life is to learn, model, and teach the secrets of
successful living.
GOALS
When you have your MISSION established (in writing) you are ready to
start recording your GOALS. The objective of your GOALS, you must remember,
is to help you do
something--fulfill your lives PURPOSE and MISSION.
Goals are the thing I want and need that will help me fulfill my MISSION.
To learn...the secrets of successful living I need to set a goal that will
guide me to fulfill this objective. For example, one of my goals is as
follows:
I will listen to six self-development audio programs during the next
twelve months.
The same principle should guide all of your GOAL SETTING actions. Make
sure you record your GOAL in writing. They need to be clear and specific.
When record, review them regularly. In fact, use them to plan each year,
month, week, and day.
CONCLUSION
We don't serve out GOALS! Our GOALS serve us. They guide us toward
fulfilling our life's MISSION and PURPOSE. True Success-In-Life comes
when we fulfill our PURPOSE--when we live our VISION. And that's what it
means to Carpe Diem.
Developing Your Personal Code (part 5 of 5) by Bill Nieporte
1) DISCERNING YOUR CURRENT VALUES
You'll need to set a significant portion of time aside to explore your
values (at least a few
hours). Better yet, I suggest you take a personal retreat--perhaps
a day--away from the
"distractions" of life. Dedicate this time to the personal exploration
of your life.
A. On a sheet of paper write at the top the statement: "I value..."
Then, in a freestyle fashion, begin listing everything you consider
important, valuable, and worthwhile in your life.
My list looks like this:
I VALUE...
God, family, church, community, courage, generosity, honesty, excellence,
faith,
compassion, collaboration, success, etc.
B. My "Values List" has nearly 100 different items.
When your list begins to reach this level of volume, I suggest
that it time for a second step. Begin to review your list. Whittle it down
to around 20-25 items. Condense items on the list that seem repetitive.
Delete those for which you are unable to develop a clear image in your
mind.
Remove those which really (upon reflection) don't seem to be a primary
value statement for the way you live your life.
C. When your list has been condense to 20-25 items
Choose 3-5 which seem central to you life. How? Ask yourself these
questions:
Which of these values are the MOST IMPORTANT things I look for in others
and/or expect from myself?
Which of these values reflect well upon my purpose and vision statements?
If I had to sacrifice all the other value items, keeping just one, which one would I keep?
After you have selected your first (central, primary, over-arching value) conduct this process again to select a third or fourth!
2. JUDGING YOUR VALUES
In contemporary culture it has become common to suggest that all values
are equal--that one persons personal code or value statements are no better
or worse than others. Not so! For a value to produce virtue, leading to
goodness, and ultimately to happiness, it must be a healthy, life-enhancing
value. As such, their must be some serious soul-searching evaluations and
judgments over our value statements to see if they meet this criteria.
In addition to judging the health of a value statement, it will also
be necessary to evaluate
the worth we place on each value. Is it more healthy, for example,
to value one's job above one's family, or
one's family above one's job? Which should come first in a healthy values
code, honesty or career advancement? Who would you rather call "friend,"
somebody with a high degree of integrity or the desire to obtain lots of
money? You understand my point. All values are not equal! Some values are
life-enhancing--others are life-limiting.
On what basis do you judge the worth and order of your value statements? I suggest that you discuss you value statements with somebody your trust and respect--perhaps a mentor, self-development coach, pastor, or trusted friend. They may be able to provide you some necessary and thoughtful feedback. I also suggest that this might be a time to begin to explore spiritual health and vitality. Your religious heritage might provide you some useful insight that will help you discern the relative health of your personal code of conduct.
3. VALUES ALIGNMENT
The next step is to examine your life in reference to you personal
code of conduct. Is your life a reflection of the values to which
you claim to adhere? If so, then your values might be said to be "perspirational."
If not, then your values are said to be "aspirational."
If all your values are healthy and "perspirational," congratulations.
You could no
doubt testify to the truth that goodness and virtue lead to happiness and
self-fulfillment. If
you values are "aspirational," (not yet realized in our lives)
then happiness will come in the process of bringing our lives into
alignment with our values. No doubt this is the place here most of us find
ourselves today.
At this point I suggest that you might want to return to the goals-setting
exercise noted in an earlier article. Establish goals that are aimed at
bringing your life into alignment with your values. For example, if you
value good health but find yourself to be overweight, lethargic, and generally
out of shape, then you might want to set goals and establish a agenda for
better health.
Exercise! Take nutritional supplements. Eat a healthier diet. As your
practices begin to fall
into alignment with your values, you will find your life to be more
enjoyable and fulfilling.
3 THE ROLE OF GRACE
Theologian Thomas Oden has written:
"There is a hole in the standard shelf of books on self-help. This hole
is waiting to be
filled by the classical Christian teaching on grace."
What is the classical Christian teaching on grace?
It begins with some rather disturbing news--but news which we
can all testify as being truthful.
The news is simply this: "No matter how hard I try, I cannot
live up to my own code of
values--much less those established by an all-powerful
and righteous God." What follows,
however, is the blessing of grace. No matter how often or badly
I fail, God still loves and accepts me--and gives me the strength
to forgive myself and keep going.
I am proud to say that I have experienced that grace. I fail often. I made mistake daily. I can't live up to my own high standards. Nevertheless, I experience a great deal of satisfaction and joy in my life on a daily and growing basis. Why? Because I realize that God loves and forgives me.
God loves and is willing to forgive you too.
Experiencing that grace is the first and greatest step toward CARPE
DIEM--Squeezing the Life Out of Life.
CONCLUSION
Aristotle was right! The highest ambition in all our life's is to experience
fulfillment. We all
strive to be happy. We all want to CARPE DIEM.
These five articles were written to help you find that fulfillment.
Discern you PURPOSE for living.
Develop an ATTITUDE that makes you worth living with. Dream DREAMS
and establish GOALS that make your dreams a reality. Develop a code of
personal code of VALUES that will make you a better person.
Experience the GRACE in life that comes from knowing God. This is a
path toward CARPE DIEM.
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